Whether you’re kicking ass in life or you’re kind of in a rut, below are ten essential qualities/lessons to remember and learn to live by to be the best you.
Don’t wait for inspiration to find you…find it.
What I mean by this is, don’t make excuses for not doing something because you aren’t feeling inspired. Inspiration is everywhere around us, quite literally all you have to do is walk outside, listen to music, climb a mountain, go for a drive, smoke some weed, read a book, watch a film, write. Whatever you’re into, do it. Even try the things you wouldn’t necessarily think you’re into, you’d be surprised. The options are endless, but you have to be willing to take some actions. Do all of those things that you’ve always wanted to do, if you have someone to do it with you, great, if not, do it anyway. Don’t chase people, chase inspiration.
Understand that just because things aren’t working out for you right now, doesn’t mean that is how it will always be.
Change is constant. Whether you believe in the cosmos, a God, whoever or whatever. Change is a force that is greater than us and the quicker you adapt to that, the better. Whatever is now, won’t forever be. The odds are always changing, sometimes they are in our favor…and sometimes they’re not. On the flip-side, if things are amazing for you right now, enjoy it, truly relish in it because this exact moment isn’t everlasting. Go ahead, take as many mental pictures as ya want. Life is a lesson, a period meant to teach us and grow us. Change allows for that next chapter to take place.
Define your own self worth.
This is something I can confidently say improves with time and age. At first, you don’t necessarily know what your self worth is-or even if you do, perhaps you don’t have the experience/credentials to back it up. Your self worth evolves as you do. Never settle for less than what you deserve; you set that bar and everyone/thing should either match it or exceed it. But YOU set that bar. Once you know better, do better.
Do not assume.
Remember how assuming makes an ass out of u + me? Well, it makes more of an ass out of you than for the recipient (I’ve been so guilty of this in the past, oops). When you assume the worst or the best of a situation without truly knowing the end result, you jump to conclusions, and are more often than not, left disappointed. We don’t know the real circumstances of a situation until that outcome is presented to us. Don’t get too excited about a situation, don’t feel bad about a situation unless and until it is actually happening. Wait for life to unfold in the way that it’s meant to, then act.
Allow yourself permission to fail.
I cannot stress this one enough, I tell everyone I know to get cozy with the idea of failing. Try, fail, learn, laugh, grow, try again, succeed. Get familiar with these steps, own it, know that anything at all in this world worth having doesn’t come easy. If you aren’t failing every now and then, you aren’t really pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, you aren’t taking any real risks. Failure means trying, and that, I respect. I purposely make myself uncomfortable in the name of growth. If I feel unfamiliar or out of place, I know I’m on the right track and in the midst I’m reminded how fun it can be to try new things. Of all the things you want to accomplish, do not let fear of failure hinder you.
Be all encompassing. All inclusive.
The world isn’t just yours or mine, all of it, is all of ours. We’re all sharing it, paying rent with our physical bodies so that our souls can spend some time connecting, being conscious, aware, and hopefully offering something towards the betterment of our existence as a whole. Realize that everyone has a reason for their existence, a life, a story, and we all deserve to share it. Be kind, be generous to one another.
Have your own opinions, but be open to new ones.
Have your own opinions on things. It’s fascinating how much our attitudes toward something can become conditioned by what other people say about it, what other people’s opinions are. Have your own beliefs, but at the same time, keep an open mind. Don’t be so firm in your own thoughts that you think that is the end all. In the end, we are all students of life. And “all we know is that we know nothing.”
Respect people’s time.
Time is the one thing we will never get back, or more of. With each minute passing by, the less time we actually have. Sorry to get solemn, but in being aware of that, I hope you will respect the time of your friends and family, to your peers and colleagues. Punctuality is important. You value your time, show people you value their’s as well. If you are on time, you are late.
Be a fully functional independent human being.
Be able to provide everything you want/need for yourself. Realize what it is that you need to make yourself happy, and make it happen. Never depend on anyone else to give you what you should give yourself. You don’t need someone else to make your life better, to make you happy, or to take care of you. Love yourself so much that you would never consciously do anything or allow anyone to hurt you-but also please remember, shit happens so don’t beat yourself up if it does. This goes back to change and learning to adapt to your current surroundings. Protect yourself, and in turn be mindful of who you share yourself with. You can only share your life with people in a healthy way once you’re a fully functioning independent human.
Avoid burning bridges/own up to your shit.
We’ve all burned bridges. But, it’s a small world and the universe has a funny way of bringing you face to face with what you want to avoid most. Own up to your mistakes, your wrongdoings, your mishaps. Admit when you’ve fucked up, be transparent. Your reputation is one of your most valuable assets, so be a decent human. This isn’t to say though that there aren’t some bridges you should definitely burn, because there are, but choose your battles wisely. Follow your instincts and if it’s up to you, let them be the ones who burn the bridge, not you.