So ya, I’m still in my early twenties, 23 to be precise, however I believe I’ve acquired quite a bit of knowledge in the time that I’ve turned 20 to now. These are the years where you experience substantial and transformative discoveries constantly. Life happens so fast and if you’re lucky enough you’ll be able to grasp onto these precious moments. But as you know it ain’t always sunshine and cloudless days, sometimes things suck. Like, really suck. From personal life to work life and everything in between. The best thing you can do for yourself is to keep it moving. I’ll say that again because I really mean it, keep it moving, always. Keep doing positive things for yourself. Keep moving towards your goals. Keep yourself happy and taken care of above all. Keep striving for more.
For me the biggest reward is knowing that I truly earned something because of my creativity, consistency, efforts and smart work. I’d rather pay my dues from the very bottom of the totem pole learning everything from the inside out than be handed something just because of connections. Maybe because I wasn’t raised to take the easy way, for anything. I’ve always endured and enjoyed the journey of working my way up. Overcoming challenges and achieving goals. That’s how I know I actually deserve what I’m working towards, and because of this mentality engrained in me, my ambition is through the roof. I have massive respect for those who continue to do all the work that never gets acknowledged. The ones who are the detail workers. Detail workers are the reason any operation exists beyond just thoughts, they are what make the bigger picture even possible. They get the shit end of the stick often times because they do all the work and get none of the credit or recognition (I’ve been there). I’m telling you though, one day it will get recognized and all it takes is that right moment. You don’t have to start all over at every new place you go, you pay your dues once, get that experience and take that knowledge with you everywhere you go. Always know your worth. Never expect more or work for less than what you’re worth. That is the art of balance and decency, my friend. Of course your worth evolves as you do. So keep up with yourself.
I got this tattoo sometime last year that says “take up space”; and for me this directly translates to: make an imprint in the world. Make yourself known. Don’t hide or feel like you have to be small and careful. Take up space. That was the result of an epiphany I had whilst drinking Kava in Berkeley and drawing mandalas. It’s a promise I made with myself from that moment on, I will never be afraid to take up space. I especially feel this as a woman. Women have been conditioned to shrink themselves, their voice and their presence. This epiphany correlates with this experience I had at a job before. I wanted a promotion and I was so intimidated to talk to my boss about it because I felt like perhaps it wasn’t my place. I knew damn well I deserved it, I’d given myself a hundred pep talks, but still somehow I couldn’t muster up the courage to actually ask for what I wanted. A few minutes later, a male colleague causally waltzed in and kindly demanded a meeting, made his voice and entitlement known and boom got what he wanted. In awe and amazement, at that very moment I snapped out of this generic “male dominated world” mindset and went in that room and asked for what I wanted.
From the time we hit puberty and onwards, we’ve been trying to figure out who we are and what we want to do with ourselves. We’ve been taught to define ourselves with labels and feelings so that the rest of the world can make sense of us. Old school society doesn’t realize (or maybe they do and that’s exactly what they want) that these labels that come with predisposed stereotypes force us to stay confined within those specifications. I am a girl. I am straight. I am happy. I am this I am that. Fuck that. I’m a girl, but sometimes I wear my brother’s clothes. I like boys and sometimes I like girls. I am happy, but in this same moment I’m also a million different things. Simply put, I am what I am right now, and I will be who I will be later. I’m not going to commit to conformity. I will be me whatever me is at that moment. I have no interest in defining myself. I would never set such a limit. Don’t try to make sense of everything, just let it be.
I have so much to learn, so much to experience, so much to feel, and so much to enjoy. Love your life. Every single bit of it.
I’ll leave you with this paradoxical masterpiece, Socrates once said, “I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.”
Stay hungry and stay foolish friends xx